Focus on Yourself

What does it mean to Focus on Yourself?

In the grip of someone else’s addiction, our attention naturally drifts outward. we become experts on the alcoholic’s moods, schedules, and failures, while our own lives fall into neglect. "Focus on Yourself" is the essential shift back to the only person we have the power to change. It is not an act of selfishness; it is an act of survival. By pulling our energy back from the obsession with another's choices, we stop being a supporting character in their drama and start becoming the protagonist of our own lives.

This shift allows us to identify our own needs, feelings, and goals that have been buried under years of crisis management. We begin to ask, "What do I need today for my own peace?" rather than "How can I stop them from drinking?" Focusing on ourselves means taking responsibility for our own happiness, health, and spiritual growth. As we stop trying to manage the unmanageable, we find that our serenity no longer depends on the sobriety of another. We learn that we can be whole, healthy, and even happy, regardless of whether the drinker is still drinking.