Is Al-Anon for You?
The following questions are designed to help you decide whether Al-Anon might be helpful for you. There are no right or wrong answers — simply reflect honestly on each one.
- Do you worry about how much someone drinks?
- Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
- Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
- Do you feel that if the drinker cared about you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
- Do you blame the drinker’s behavior on his or her companions?
- Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
- Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you”?
- Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
- Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
- Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker’s behavior?
- Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
- Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
- Do you search for hidden alcohol?
- Do you ever ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
- Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
- Do you feel like a failure because you can’t control the drinking?
- Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
- Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
- Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
- Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, Al-Anon may be able to help. You are welcome at any Al-Anon meeting, whether or not the person in your life is still drinking.
Adapted from the Al-Anon Family Groups self-quiz at al-anon.org.
What Happens at an Al-Anon Meeting?
Al-Anon meetings are a safe place to share and listen. Members talk about their experiences, how they cope, and what tools have helped them. There is no pressure to speak — you are welcome to simply listen. Meetings typically last about an hour and are held in person, by phone, or online.
Everything shared in a meeting is confidential. You don’t need to sign up or commit to anything. Just show up.
You’re Not Alone
Millions of people around the world have found help in Al-Anon. Whether the person in your life is still drinking or has stopped, Al-Anon offers support for your own recovery and peace of mind.